“Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves.” Philippians 2:3
I put this verse on Instagram the other night, I captioned it, “People don’t do this anymore. It’s more about pointing out another’s flaws to stew guilt in others and to make themselves “look and feel better”. Especially Christians who regard knowledge more than Christ, and want to make that known. That’s not showing the gentle, yet mighty character of Christ. It’s making themselves overly righteous and putting others way beneath you.”
For those who do this, they may instantly get offended. Angry even. But it’s nothing but the truth. Some, even, might go as far to say, you’re only being convicted, that’s why you’re lashing out.
Am I saying the knowledge of Christ shouldn’t be learned and breathed into one’s soul? No. This is what I am saying.
There is a far better way to share the true love and knowledge of Christ, rather than ignoring someone’s comradeship to learn more about Christ. Instead, they ignore, belittle your voice, and try to “one up” you.
I once wrote, “It’s disheartening to see fellow Christians talk down to other Christians as if their better or more “righteous” by “preaching” to them rather than selflessly encouraging them. That is not Christianity “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,” Romans 3:23. Some do this to fill their own void of sin. Don’t let them do it to you. There is a difference between sharpening a friend in Christ and using the iron too harshly…then I quoted Philippians 2:3.
Yes, some Christians shove the iron down your throat, to where you can’t breathe. It’s incredibly disheartening, and I know it hasn’t only happened to me.
Where is the grace and humility? Has humbleness walked out of the door? What happened to considering others better than yourself?
Where did the gentle and kindness of Christ go?
For those who pride themselves in knowledge, and disregard the art of Christ’s message–which runs on grace–they will always find themselves looking down on other Christians who don’t share the same knowledge. They will, in fact, uproot themselves and consider themselves wiser, better and holier.
Again, that is not the grace and message of Christ. So, this is not what the love of Christ looks like–several of which have happened to me.
- You haven’t been on a mission trip? (Stops talking to me.)
- The message is way too modernized and regards humanism. (Completely disregards the art of the message.)
- You try to engage in godly conversation. (They ignore you and subliminally “one up” you. Yes, it happens in Christianity.)
- You feel like you have to be perfect and sound intelligent in front of them. (Because all they have done is negatively routed everything you have said.)
- Wanted to be “friends” with you first, but then after realizing you’re not the exact cup of knowledge and doctrine they are, they toss you to the wind. (Beware of sheep’s clothing.)
- Shove the next popular Christian book in your face, one after the other, when you haven’ even had the chance to process the title of the first book. (“Do not be overrighteous, neither be overwise– why destroy yourself?” Ecc. 7:16)
All of these things happen in today’s society (I’m sure you can add a few), regarding the true gospel of Jesus Christ verses the watered down version (what I make God to be) gospel of Jesus Christ.
So many other things happen to Christians when they are looked at by other Christians as not as good. Thus, the useless inadequate words seeps inside.
This happens. It’s unfortunate and saddening to believers who actually want a friendship, to grow in Christ more. What this has done, is created a dividing shift between all believers. New ones, older ones.
It has created a comparison divide that has eaten away at the very little grace they pour out onto others.
It has made them look through very narrowed eyes, to the point where they can’t see the beauty going on in their peripheral vision. Except the faults of one’s message. Their flaws and all.
But I feel for them, just as much as I feel for a friend who is a new believer. Not the feeling of pity, but of compassion. Because they also hurt and long and wonder. And we are all–very much–in this together.
We are all created in the likeness of God, and a God who shows no partiality–so why should we?
We need to pour out compassion and grace, literally considering others better than ourselves, to help them, to love them, to engage with them–rather than not, because pride, self-righteousness, bitterness and a certain longing had its way. We are all pretty much smart beings, who can tell when this happens. It shows a huge part of someone’s character.
Christians are shutting out other Christians who are relying on the grace of Christ day by day, not knowledge and perfection. People who don’t want to be walking on egg shells everyday, under the rut that too much knowledge can bring.
If you want to correct someone, do it gracefully. If you want to make a point, do it gently.
I write about this, because I am passionate about closing the divide, and how true compassion and grace looks like. I will be the first to say I don’t know everything about everything and that I struggled with perfection and pointing out others flaws–I did in my own ways–,but I do know something about the love of Christ and sharing the love of Christ–and it’s not disregarding your brother or sister in any which way.
It’s kind. It’s gentle. It’s new. Everyday. It’s eager to learn. It’s passionate.
God is a lot of good things–too many to list–but He is not a God of condemnation. That’s what Satan’s for. Our God, is a God of conviction. Yet, He doesn’t slap you in the face with His Book, He walks towards you, opens it and breathes His life into you gently, lovingly, patiently and miraculously.
We need to do this more.
“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” Ephesians 4:2
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